Kids' Answers to Questions

Read this and thought it was hilarious!!! 

Questions about love, marriage and sex were posed to kids ages 5 to 10. Their answers below are enlightening:

WHAT IS THE PROPER AGE TO GET MARRIED??

"Eighty-four! Because at that age, you don't have to work anymore, and you can spend all your time loving each other in your bedroom."(Judy, 8)

"Once I'm done with kindergarten, I'm going to find me a wife!"(Tom, 5)

WHAT DO MOST PEOPLE DO ON A DATE??

"On the first date, they just tell each other lies, and that usually gets them interested enough to go for a second date." (Mike, 10)

WHEN IS IT OKAY TO KISS SOMEONE??

"You should never kiss a girl unless you have enough bucks to buy her a big ring and her own VCR, 'cause she'll want to have videos of the wedding."(Jim, 10)

"Never kiss in front of other people. It's a big embarrassing thing if anybody sees you. But if nobody sees you, I might be willing to try it with a handsome boy, but just for a few hours."(Kally, 9)

THE GREAT DEBATE: IS IT BETTER TO BE SINGLE OR MARRIED??

"It's better for girls to be single but not for boys. Boys need somebody to clean up after them!"(Lynette, 9)

"It gives me a headache to think about that stuff. I'm just a kid. I don't need that kind of trouble."(Kenny, 7)

CONCERNING WHY LOVE HAPPENS BETWEEN TWO PARTICULAR PEOPLE

"No one is sure why it happens, but I heard it has something to do with how you smell. That's why perfume and deodorant are so popular."(Jan, 9)

"I think you're supposed to get shot with an arrow or something, but the rest of it isn't supposed to be so painful." (Harlen, 8)

ON WHAT FALLING IN LOVE IS LIKE

"Like an avalanche where you have to run for your life." (Roger, 9)

"If falling in love is anything like learning how to spell, I don't want to do it. It takes too long."(Leo, 7)

ON THE ROLE OF GOOD LOOKS IN LOVE

"If you want to be loved by somebody who isn't already in your family, it doesn't hurt to be beautiful."(Jeanne, 8)

"It isn't always just how you look. Look at me. I'm handsome like anything and I haven't got anybody to marry me yet." (Gary, 7)

"Beauty is skin deep. But how rich you are can last a long time."(Christine, 9)

CONCERNING WHY LOVERS OFTEN HOLD HANDS

"They want to make sure their rings don't fall off because they paid good money for them."(Dave, 8)

CONFIDENTIAL OPINIONS ABOUT LOVE

"I'm in favor of love as long as it doesn't happen when 'The Simpsons' is on television."(Anita, 6)

"Love will find you, even if you are trying to hide from it. I have been trying to hide from it since I was five, but the girls keep finding me."(Bobby, 8)

"I'm not rushing into being in love. I'm finding fourth grade hard enough."(Regina, 10)

THE PERSONAL QUALITIES NECESSARY TO BE A GOOD LOVER

"One of you should know how to write a check. Because, even if you have tons of love, there is still going to be a lot of bills." (Ava, 8)

SOME SUREFIRE WAYS TO MAKE A PERSON FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU

"Tell them that you own a whole bunch of candy stores." (Del, 6)

"Don't do things like have smelly, green sneakers. You might get attention, but attention ain't the same thing as love." (Alonzo, 9)

"One way is to take the girl out to eat. Make sure it's something she likes to eat. French fries usually works for me." (Bart, 9)

HOW CAN YOU TELL IF TWO ADULTS EATING DINNER AT A RESTAURANT ARE IN LOVE?

"Just see if the man picks up the check. That's how you can tell if he's in love."(John, 9)

"Lovers will just be staring at each other and their food will get cold. Other people care more about the food." (Brad, 8)

"It's love if they order one of those desserts that are on fire. They like to order those because it's just like how their hearts are...on fire."(Christine, 9)

WHAT MOST PEOPLE ARE THINKING WHEN THEY SAY "I LOVE YOU"

"The person is thinking: Yeah, I really do love him. But I hope he showers at least once a day."(Michelle, 9)

HOW A PERSON LEARNS TO KISS

"You learn it right on the spot when the gooshy feelings get the best of you."(Doug, 7)

"It might help to watch soap operas all day."(Carin, 9)

WHEN IS IT OKAY TO KISS SOMEONE?

"It's never okay to kiss a boy. They always slobber all over you...That's why I stopped doing it."(Jean, 10)

HOW TO MAKE LOVE ENDURE

"Spend most of your time loving instead of going to work." (Tom, 7)

"Don't forget your wife's name...That will mess up the love." (Roger, 8)

"Be a good kisser. It might make your wife forget that you never take out the trash."(Randy, 8)

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Blast from My Past

Apparently I did a random facts in 2009 on FaceBook. So I am going to repost it here. There are many that may be said on my previous recent posts about myself. That goes to show, that I haven't changed much. I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing. Maybe  you can tell me, lol.

RULES: Once you've been tagged, you are supposed to write a note with 25 random things, facts, habits, or goals about you. At the end, choose 25 people to be tagged. You have to tag the person who tagged you. If I tagged you, it's because I want to know more about you.

(To do this, go to “notes” under tabs (+) on your profile page, paste these instructions in the body of the note, type your 25 random things, tag 25 people (in the right hand corner of the app) then click publish


1. I have little patience
2. Love playing Final Fantasy XI online
3. Have a crush on Morris Chestnut
4. I love to read
5. I can be very spontaneous 
6. Looking to retire earlier than normal
7. Very few people know me very well
8. Hated JHS
9. Loved HS
10. Went to 3 different Elementary Schools
11. I am a lot more sensitive than people believe
12. I hate flaky people
13. I try to keep my word as much as possible
14. Likes to have time to herself, lately it's been a lot of time
15. I hate having to curb my conversations
16. I hate owing anyone anything
17. I am very anal about things
18. Don't like very whiny & over sensitive men
19. I can be impulsive
20. Love techy stuff
21. I used to play school with my dolls when I was a kid
22. I hate email forwards that are random and hold no significance to me
23. I have a thing about people invading my personal space
24. I hate fussing and fighting
25. Hate when my time is wasted.

Review: Sweet Water

Sweet Water by Christina Baker Kline

My rating: 3 of 5 stars



I believe this book was a great read. The characters made sense to me. I understood all the complexities that each of them brought in the story. The book starts of a lost woman who's in search if herself by accepting the house and land left to her from her estranged grandfather. I loved the dialogs and the story. What I hated which made me gave this story is that at the pivotal point of the story, the story just ended. Did the grandmother talk to the granddaughter? Did granddaughter make up with her aunt? How does this family heal? So much was left out. I feel a bit cheated. If it was a completed story it would have gotten 5 stars.



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R.I.P. Phenomenal Woman!!!

Today we lost a true African-American Hero. Her voice maybe silent for the future but we will continue to have her voice in our heads and hearts.

I've never met her but I respected her immensely. When I hear her voice I stop and listen regardless of what I was doing. I'm not the greatest poet, but the following is my favorite poem. I've had it plastered in front of my desk in many of my offices.

PHENOMENAL WOMAN

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms,
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them,
They say they still can’t see.
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing,
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need for my care.
’Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Maya Angelou, “Phenomenal Woman” from And Still I Rise. Copyright © 1978 by Maya Angelou.

Rest in peace Maya Angelou. You will be missed.

I'm So Vain, I know This Post is About Me

I'm in the mood to share more about myself. Maybe people can get my personality a bit more or I just want to put it out there. Self therapy in form of voyeurism.

1. I don't do the phone. I love my iPhone. I just don't like talking on the phone. I only speak to very few people on the phone. Everyone else needs to text me or AIM me. Phone calls will go directly to voicemail. Once I listen to it, I will text or email back. In my career, you've learned the phone is NOT your friend.

2. I don't like people wasting my time. Dating was rough for me. I hated dates that led no where. I find it a waste of time. If I make plans with you don't waste my time having me wait 20 to 30 minutes without any explanation. All you do is piss me off and I won't make plans with you again. If I deem that the friendship is worth it, then I'll tell you a different time that way, when you are late, you are on time.

I started this list off with my pet peeves. Sorry, this lends to fact #3. I tend to go negative first then bring in the positive. I rub alcohol in the wound before I put neosporin and bandage it up.

4. I have a very very very over active imagination. You can tell me something and I'll be in my head visualizing it. I also have epic dreams.

5. I like writing. I have 3 stories in my head I would love to get out to the assets but time is my downfall. They need to have an apparatus that can scan your brain and type out what you want. That would make this easier. I have been published though. I participated in an anthology with my GoodReads group. The book can be gotten here.

6. Restaurant/Cafe hopping. I love trying new restaurants. As a kid, I dreamt that I would live in Manhattan and I would eat dinner at different cafés/restaurants every night. If that were true, I'd weigh a ton. Which brings me to the next point.

7. I hate exercising. I find it tedious and boring. I don't like repetitive boring things. Ugh. But alas I do it to be healthy.

8. I judge people immediately on first look. My mom always said to make your first impression your best impression so you must always look presentable. I used to hate that. How can people just judge you like that? It was unfair. I used to throw back, well never judge a book by its cover. She acknowledged it but countered that society does not work that way. They already have a prejudice to you already because you are Black. Don't give them anymore reasons to not like and respect you. So I made sure I looked presentable in the most important times. But, yeah, I will judge every single hoodrat looking guy walking on the street, hanging out at a street corner, on the train or anywhere. Race does not come into play here even though majority of the hoodrat looking guys are Black. I will not give them a positive acknowledgement. If they want me to give them positive, they must look positive. I will not talk to or hire a guy who can't wear his pants how it's made to. If not, they are a bunch if delinquents. I don't lie down with dogs because I don't want folks thinking I have fleas. I've heard the "self expression" excuse numerous times. How's it self expression when all your slummy pals are wearing the same look? Come on. Black men want to be respected by society and not stereotyped as thugs. Well do something about it!! Stop looking like one!!!!

9. I would love to live by the beach. I am a beach bum. Everyday and all day I'd lay outside on the beach relaxing and reading a book. Now that's what I call heaven. I need a beach STAT.

10. I think I my body gets depressed. There are a day or two close to my period, but not every period, (eww yucky, whatever, grow up) that I want to do things but my body absolutely won't budge. It's like my body has its own entity with its own will. Won't listen to my brain at all. But it will compromise on bodily functions such as breathing, using the bathroom. As of late these days are becoming rare.

11. I love sleeping. It is so good. I'd rather take a nap everyday but work won't permit it. Sleep is therapeutic for me.

Well I think this is enough sharing for today. There may be another fact sharing post in my future. There's so much to learn about me.

I'm Tired

I'm tired. What am I tired of? This post is me letting iff some steam. If you can't handle negativity, then this post is not for you. I need to vent and this is my forum to do so.

I'm tired of the degenerates, street trash, hoodrats, jackasses that hang out at the corner of blocks (ones that have a bodega on them). I'm tired of the folks who condone their behavior. I'm tired of the people who created this issue in the first place. I'm tired having to avoid people just to get home. I wish I had the power of judge and jury because I would send everyone of them to death row. I'm tired of being harassed by them because I refuse to acknowledge them. Why do I have to acknowledge street trash? Find someone else to peddle your illegal wares.

I'm tired of bosses who don't know how to talk to people appropriately. I'm tired of busting my ass without fair pay. I'm tired having to take shit from assholes. I'm tired having to chase people to make a decision when they want to be the person to make the decision. I'm tired of people taking my silence as ignorance. I'm very aware of what's going on around me. I just CHOOSE not to say anything until I'm fed up. I am not taking responsibility for anyone's incompetence.

I'm tired of bullshit over interracial relationships. I'm tired of people asking me if my husband is a freak as if White men all have wierd fetishes. I'm tired if Black men thinking that I'm not satisfied by my husband because he's White. I'm tired of Black men think they have the gal to try to step to me the minute my husband moves away. I have no interest in you. I'm FUCKING HAPPILY MARRIED! I'm tired of Black women asking me why I didn't marry a Black man. Seriously? Why can't I date and marry whom I love? I've dated tons of Black men. They weren't the one who captured my heart. I have very little patience for bullshit. Sorry, a lot of Black men like to bullshit. I've dated Latin men to. Same story. I've also dated White men. Same story. Dating men in General has a lot of bullshit that I don't have patience for. I'm tired of people telling me that my marriage won't last because we come from 2 different worlds. Fuck you!! I want all these negative nelly's to get the hell away from me before I give them a once more.

If you read this post. I'm sorry for the negativity and vulgarity. I just had it up to here (imagine my hand above waving above my head). Thank you tho for listening (reading).

Chris Dates a Black Girl

Sunday night I was watching a new Episode of Family Guy on Fox. It was a very thought provoking episode, hence this blog post. In this episode, Chris starts dating Jerome's daughter. If you don't know Family Guy, Chris is a White Kid and Jerome is Black which makes his daughter Black.

I'm all for interracial couples, especially ones that matches my own relationship. So I am going to briefly summarize this episode with commentary in italics.

Jerome's daughter started going to Chris' school. He meets her, talks to her, falls for her. *Chris is actually seeing her for herself not her skin color.* He brings her home to meet his family. The first thing is Peter says is he wants to see Chris in the kitchen. *I was preparing to be pissed off now.*
Peter says he thought Chris would bring home hugely fat woman. Then it cuts to a scene where Peter is directing a huge women to back up into a garage. *The fat woman issue will be another post, but what I loved about Peter's reaction is that he saw nothing wrong with this relationship.* Peter then rushes them both back into the living room because Lois maybe listing off all the Black people she knew. *I don't find this part racist. Lois is ignorant.*
After the visit, Peter, Chris and his girl go to the Clam which Jerome owns. Jerome forbids Chris & his daughter to date. It upsets Chris, his daughter and even Peter. *Why is Jerome so mad about this? Is it because it's Chris or is it his race?*Chris and his girlfriend run away to be together. Now Peter and Jerome are looking for the kids. Jerome tells Peter all the hardships of being Black and experiences some of the racisms Blacks have to endure on a regular basis. *Being a stupid person, Peter actually gets it. * They find Chris and daughter in a hotel room in bed. All they were doing was kissing. Jerome tells her that no daughter of his is dating a White Guy is plain disrespectful! Peter then asks how he felt about a Black guy dating a White woman. Jerome says that 'glorious heaven'. *Seriously? I'm pissed now. It's disrespectful for a Black girl to date White but okay for Black guy to date White? How dare Seth McFarlan agree with stupid ignorant Black folks on this topic. Is he racist himself?* Peter then tells Chris in a long drawn out over the top explanation that they had to respect Jerome's stupid wishes and that Whites need to only date Whites and never should races mix. Then Jerome's daughter asks him is this the lesson he wants her to learn. Jerome sees the error of his ignorant thinking and apologizes. *Hallelujah McFarlan saved his ass right there. I so was going to light up message boards, his Facebook page his twitter feed. The works.* So Chris and his girl gets to stay together. *I hope to see this relationship blossom on the show, but I'm sure it was just for an episode.*

This episode was a good one. Family Guy usually exasperates stereotypes to the fullest no matter of race or religion. But this episode by the end I think was a good episode, pushing BW/WM relationships as a normal in society's eyes. I hope to see more shows focus on positive looks and relationships for BW/WM.

20 Facts About Me

My HS friend Dionne is doing a blog challenge for 100 days. In last night's post she did 20 Facts About Me. So I decided to try it. This may be a daunting task since I am pretty quiet about myself. I'd rather sing the praises of others like Dionne. I admire her tenacity. So here is my attempt.

1. Was born in Brooklyn NY

2. I'm a middle child. I have an older sister and a younger brother.

3. I am currently married. If you knew me in my 20s and younger, you'd know that this is out of character for me. However, marriage seems to suit me.

4. I am highly sensitive. I don't act like it when you meet me. I internalize things and get bent out of shape in my head or when I'm by myself.

5. I don't like to share a lot. This is an admission I never really told people. Being a middle child you got hand me downs and then had to had down again. I never really got to keep much for myself. Hence, why I don't like to share. But, over the years I have gotten better at sharing.

6. I take care of others better than myself. I am currently trying to take care of myself more.

7. I am stubborn. I will admit that. I'm set in my ways. I get it from my parents.

8. I don't like to be rushed. I will slow down even worse just to spite you.

9. I don't like anyone in my personal space. I get very irritated if someone's in it. Why do I live in NYC?

10. I love curling up with a good book. You can find me in a corner, curled up with my iPad.

11. I like playing video games even though lately it's been regulated to my iPhone only.

12. My favorite and spirit animal is the Tiger. Can't you tell from my blog's name? My aim name? My email address?

13. I am an accountant by trade. But I'm so much more.

14. I've lived in California for 8 years. I hated living there when I was there, but now I kind of miss it.

15. I don't take rejection well. But I do use it as strength to prove you wrong.

16. There are days where I just want to be in my own world. Don't want anyone talking to me. Just me, the couch and my thoughts.

17. I have OCD when it comes to papers. I don't like other people writing on my documents. It bothers me to no end.

18. I HATE the cold weather. Give me 80 degrees & more any time. I can also do without the humidity.

19. I'm a gadget-aholic. I love gadgets.

20. I so want to be a vampire!! I don't want to die. I want to live forever. I think I would be a good vampire. I'd just feed off of the wicked & leave the innocent alone. In this world, I wouldn't starve.

Do you think you can list 20 things about yourself?

Worst Date In History

So I was listening to the 102.7 FM radio show the other morning. They were asking people to call in and tell them their worst date ever. So instead of calling in, I decided to write it down here for you. I am due for a post anyhow. So here it goes.
When I lived in California I didn't have a car. You needed one to get around. So I had to ask my dad to drive me around. He wouldn't let me use his car. This is a bit of back history before I delved into the story.
I met this dude. I don't remember his name, so let's call him Baka (idiot in Japanese). So, I met him at a work party. He didn't work at my company, but was a coworker's friend. We hit it off pretty well. By end of night we had exchanged numbers and he was drunk off his ass. I was sober. I don't really drink.
Two days later, Baka called me and we spoke for a while. He seemed like a good guy who partied hard. I'm not that fond of hard partiers. He invited me on a date to a friends birthday gathering. I accepted with a condition: no getting drunk. He agreed with the terms.
Saturday afternoon he calls says he couldn't make it to Oakland to pick me up because he was still doing finishing touches on his friend's birthday celebration. I told him I'll find a way there. My dad ended up driving me to the farthest part of San Francisco (don't remember the neighborhood name, maybe Sunset Park?). We met Baka outside. My dad asked if he needed to pick me up. Baka said he'll drop me home. They shook hands and my dad left.
Baka introduced me to his friends. Then I found out that the celebration was on a party trolley (like a party bus but on a cable car instead). Warning signs started to rear its head. So when we get on the trolley, I reinforced my thoughts to Baka. He said he wasn't going to drink at all. How was it, by time the trolley brought us back to the house, Baka was drunk off his ass.

Fuck me. Now I'm in middle of San Francisco I am not familiar with and my dad is not answering his phone. Fuck. So, Baka suggests I drive his "whip". I didn't know what his whip was until I saw this huge GMC SUV/truck. My mouth literally dropped when I saw it. I am 5'4". That monster was made for tall folks. I needed help getting in the truck. He gets in the passenger side. My head barely made it over the steering wheel. I had to adjust everything so I can see. I asked one of his friends how to get to the Bay Bridge.
Okay so now I'm on my way home. I got slightly turned around a bit in SF, but managed to get on the bridge. If you don't know, this bridge is 8 miles long. I'm in the right line driving because I'm not to comfortable driving this beast.

Here comes the best part of the trip. Baka asks me if he can smoke some weed while I drove. I screamed at him and said HELL NO!!! He bitched and moaned but he complied with my request. Just after that conversation, I checked my rear view mirror to see at least 3 cop cars behind me. Holy shit!! If dude lit one up, my ass would've been arrested on the spot!!!! Luckily after I got off the bridge, the cop cars turned off somewhere. I made my way home. Now the block I lived on was a 2 way but you can only park on one side. If you parked on the wrong side, it's instant towing. So I parked his vehicle in the worst part of the wrong side of the road. At this point, his ass was snoring. I shoved him to wake him up gave him his car keys. I got out of his car, went to my apartment and went to bed.
I didn't hear from Baka for another 2 days. He spoke as if nothing happened. I told him to lose my number.
This date goes down As the worst date in my history. I will always remember this day until the day I die.

The Scenario Part 1

Dating is a pain in the ass. I never liked it when I was single. I found dating to be a waste of time. I don't like people wasting my time is more like it. If you want to get to know me, get to know me and stop dicking around. I hate games and men love to play them. So do girls, but I'm not one of those. I'm straight to the point. However, I have friends who are still dealing with the games out there. I love to hear the stories that they go thru. It also reminds me of what I went thru too. So what I'm going to do is run thru scenarios that have happened and then give my advice/response.

Scenario #1
"You met dude at some bar/lounge/club. You hit it off. You exchange numbers. Then you don't hear from dude for 2 to 3 weeks. He calls you at 11 pm one night. He talks to you as if y'all were tight. And then try to make a way for a hook up."

Chica, don't waste your time. If dude was interested in you, he would've called you the next day or day after. He would not try to talk you into having a booty call. He would try to get to know you. Take you out. However, dude here is just looking for a jump off. I'm sure you weren't his first pick either. He probably found your card in his jacket pocket and assumed you liked what you saw and are down to give him what he wants. Men are vain like that. If you let 'em, they'll walk all over you.

Scenario #2
"You've been dating this dude. Nothing serious. He keeps telling you that he finds you a bit intimidating, but he doesn't elaborate on why even when you ask. He tells you he likes you and thinks there is a future together, but yet again he finds you a bit intimidating?"

This here can be 3 things. First he may be telling you to stop being bossy. He wants to be the bossy one, not you. Second, he may be used to weak women who depended on him for everything. Now you come into the picture and don't need him for everything. It's a bit disconcerting for him. He may ask himself what can he bring to the table if he isn't able to be depended on. Third, is more about him and less about you. This is his escape clause. If he leaves or doesn't call you ever again, he leaves the blame on you. He gets away scot free and you have your feelings hurt and wondering what's wrong with you. Girl, there's nothing wrong with you. He was just not for you. Trust me, there's a man out there for you. He'll make himself known when you are both ready.

Scenario #3
"You and dude hit off well. The chemistry is there. The trust is there. Everything feels like it's in place that makes you feel like a relationship can blossom. You've met his family and he yours. However, he doesn't want a relationship with you. You have random hookups and constantly hanging out with each other."

You are not the person he wants to be serious with. You have been designated as the 'good friend that I get to bang on occasion'. There is nothing you can do to change his mind. What you can do is, stop sleeping with him and just be his friend. It may hurt that he doesn't like you the same. Once the sex stops, his behavior to you would probably not change because he still sees you as a good friend and he can get sex somewhere else. Now you will be free to meet the person who will want you to be his end all be all.

What I've learned in dating life, there are a lot more frogs than princes. You may be wading in frogs for a long time before the prince arrives. Just make sure you are open to receiving the prince. Some girls miss out on the prince because they allowed the frogs to tear them down physically and emotionally. When you do find your prince, you will look back at all the frogs you dealt with and see the difference between love and lust.

Love is a wonderful thing. It is a privilege to have. Not everyone finds it in the form of a prince. They find it in the form of family and friends. Embrace it no matter how you receive it. It changes your outlook on life for the better. Hope this post helps someone.