Children For Thought

The other day, after a discussion about my friend's children and their mother, my friend asks me what would I want if I had a child. I've been asked this question numerous times before. But the question first
should be, do I want any?

I have been pregnant before, but I don't have a child. I have thought if I wanted child every now and then. Depending on my situation at that point of time, my answers varied. To everyone else, I've always
gave the excuse, "I want to see what my cousins dish out before I have any." I said that because twins run in my family and I didn't want to have twins.

So back to my friend's question. What do I want for a child? I've always wanted a boy. I do not have a name lined out. However, my family creates a lot of girls, so I'm pretty sure I would have a girl. So I've 2 names already for a girl. The first name I picked out, my cousin stole. And my second name I picked out, my same cousin stole for her second child. I am keeping my second name anyhow because it means something special to me.

My friend thinks I should have a little girl. I wouldn't know what to do with a little girl. I am not girly. I hate doing my hair and other frivolous stuff like getting nails done, etc. The girliest vices I claim to have are pocketbooks and panties. I absolutely hate dressing up. I will complain for the whole time getting dressed, lol. I'm most comfortable in jeans and a top. How will I be able to teach a little girl all about the girly stuff I don't know? He said I shouldn't worry about that because I'd learn while I try to teach a daughter.

Now, having a little boy wouldn't be too much trouble. Hair, no problem; send to the barber. Clothes, no problem; pants and a top. However, little boys talk a lot more than little girls in my experience. That I am used to. My nephew was a talker. He's not so much now that he's a full fledged teenager!!!

Seriously, I would be happy with whatever gender I am blessed with. They will get my full unconditional love and that comes with discipline, lol. I don't believe the child is your best friend crap. Your child is your child. They must have boundaries and discipline in order for them to become productive adults.

I know I'll get the children question as time goes by. I'll just refer them to this post, lol.

A Baby? Me? LOL

I have been asked recently been asked numerous times if I want children. Why is it what people are focusing on right now? Im glad they are not focusing on why Im not married. Woo lol. Maybe its the baby boom thats happening in Hollywood.

Now as you seen my blast It takes 2 to create a baby. Why should 1 raise it? I have seen so many people struggle to raise kids on their own without help from the other half. I dont think it is right for 1 to raise it by itself. I understand about the KM (Keep Me) babies. Theres one way to solve that: CONDOMS. If you are not sure about the birth control, wrap it up. If you help create it, you should take responsibility for it. Now for the ladies, who dump the babies on the men and disappear, if you dont want children, BIRTH CONTROL or CONDOMS. There are no accidents. Every time you have sex you run that risk. Condoms and Birth Control are not 100ffective. Be smart and responsible.

Now I ask myself, honestly, am I ready for a child? Financially and maternally, yes. However, I do not wish to bring a child into this world alone. I would like to be married or in a very long committed relationship. I want the father to be an active participant in raising this child. Now, do I want a child right now? I dont really have the patience for it right now. I have so much I want to do. Yes, I am being selfish, but why cant I? I have no commitments other than work. I think about me and not we, cause there isnt a we