Friday, September 11, 2009

Old Wives Tales

Old wives tales tell us that we will meet our match one day and we'll know it in an instant. Those same wives will also tell you not to be picky and marry any man that asks. What's so wrong with choosing what suits you best? Men do it all the time. They do not just settle for any woman they see. They take their time to meet a lot of women before they choose.

I can say my dating is not grand. I tend to avoid it. I've learned quite a lot of lessons in my relationships. Good and bad lessons. I've learned that I am a committmentaphobic. I don't easily get into relationships. It's not because I believe there's plenty of fish. My issue is that I don't have a lot of patience. I don't like my time being wasted. If I find the guy I start to date is all about games and bullshit, I just stop bothering with them and move on.

I have had relationships that has lasted 3.5 years and those that lasted 2 months. Some of my exes I had thought were close to my match. The ones that were close remain my friends to this day. I've been proposed to twice. One is married. One is almost like he's married. And one who still wants me back. However none of them were my match. I'd marry one of them if need be because they were close enough to it.

I also have a guy whom I've never dated who I consider one of my best male friends who at numerous occasions I think may be match. It is easy think so because we think alike and enjoy each other's company. And we are both drawn to each other. But we've never had the opportunity to date. We've been in relationships while each other have been single. Now we are at the point that we are both single. Sometimes I wonder but then I change my mind.

Maybe I'm being selfish when I do look for someone to be my match. I get asked over and over again what am I looking for in my match. What I do look for I don't think exists anymore. I'm looking for a guy who is secure in himself and with being in a relationship. He will have to work at a decent or better job han me and be able to provide. I am looking for a go getter. A guy who don't just sit on his ass. If he sees something wrong he wants to fix it instead of whining to me about how it is broken.

As I stated on my facebook page one day, I am looking for my Cliff Huxtable, will settle for Carl Winslow but I do not want James Evans Sr. I got a lot of slack from that, but I still stand strong to my belief. I do not want to lower my station in life. I don't want to financially support my husband like I would a child. I've never lived in the projects and I don't plan to. I will not have any support from Evans Sr if I lost my job. The whole relationship would be strained. I am not saying that he wouldn't be a good father, but it's a stressful situation when money's not paying bills. And I'm not paying them by myself.

With Winslow and Huxtable I would be comfortable enough that if I did lose my job, we will not be hurting so much. Before any of you think I am after men for their wallets, I am not. I am an independent career woman. I hold my own.

I am not going to hold up my life waiting for my match either. I'd rather remain single than to get in a relationship that I don't see going anywhere just because he's a guy. I never had the fantasy of getting married when I was growing up like some of my friends. I was too involved in trying to outsmart my mother who wouldn't let me hang out with my friends. I say if it happens it is a blessing and I will live up to being my husband's wife. If it doesn't happen I am not going to cry and wish I settled for some lame guy. I enjoy the men I meet sometimes. I find good ones and doozies. But I like getting to know people. I'm never really lonely because I have some good friends. I thank them for that.

Until I find my match or close to it, I will be fine and happy single. I will not settle.

Friday, March 20, 2009

Nine Words Women Use

This is so true on so many levels!!!! I couldn’t type this any other way.
(1) Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.
(2) Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
(3) Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes.. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.
(4) Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!
(5) Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)
(6) That's Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a woman can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.
(7) Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says 'Thanks a lot' - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say 'you're welcome' .. that will bring on a 'whatever').
(8) Whatever: Is a woman's way of saying F-- YOU!
(9) Don't worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking 'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to # 3.

Monday, January 26, 2009

Obama's Speech Jan 20th.

This is by far one of the best Inauguration Speech made by any of the Presidents of the US.

Text of President Barack Obama's inaugural address on Tuesday, as delivered.
OBAMA: My fellow citizens:
I stand here today humbled by the task before us, grateful for the trust you have bestowed, mindful of the sacrifices borne by our ancestors. I thank President Bush for his service to our nation, as well as the generosity and cooperation he has shown throughout this transition.
Forty-four Americans have now taken the presidential oath. The words have been spoken during rising tides of prosperity and the still waters of peace. Yet, every so often the oath is taken amidst gathering clouds and raging storms. At these moments, America has carried on not simply because of the skill or vision of those in high office, but because we the people have remained faithful to the ideals of our forebears, and true to our founding documents.
So it has been. So it must be with this generation of Americans.
That we are in the midst of crisis is now well understood. Our nation is at war, against a far-reaching network of violence and hatred. Our economy is badly weakened, a consequence of greed and irresponsibility on the part of some, but also our collective failure to make hard choices and prepare the nation for a new age. Homes have been lost; jobs shed; businesses shuttered. Our health care is too costly; our schools fail too many; and each day brings further evidence that the ways we use energy strengthen our adversaries and threaten our planet.
These are the indicators of crisis, subject to data and statistics. Less measurable but no less profound is a sapping of confidence across our land — a nagging fear that America's decline is inevitable, and that the next generation must lower its sights.
Today I say to you that the challenges we face are real. They are serious and they are many. They will not be met easily or in a short span of time. But know this, America — they will be met.
On this day, we gather because we have chosen hope over fear, unity of purpose over conflict and discord.
On this day, we come to proclaim an end to the petty grievances and false promises, the recriminations and worn out dogmas, that for far too long have strangled our politics.
We remain a young nation, but in the words of Scripture, the time has come to set aside childish things. The time has come to reaffirm our enduring spirit; to choose our better history; to carry forward that precious gift, that noble idea, passed on from generation to generation: the God-given promise that all are equal, all are free and all deserve a chance to pursue their full measure of happiness.
In reaffirming the greatness of our nation, we understand that greatness is never a given. It must be earned. Our journey has never been one of shortcuts or settling for less. It has not been the path for the faint-hearted — for those who prefer leisure over work, or seek only the pleasures of riches and fame. Rather, it has been the risk-takers, the doers, the makers of things — some celebrated but more often men and women obscure in their labor, who have carried us up the long, rugged path towards prosperity and freedom.
For us, they packed up their few worldly possessions and traveled across oceans in search of a new life.
For us, they toiled in sweatshops and settled the West; endured the lash of the whip and plowed the hard earth.
For us, they fought and died, in places like Concord and Gettysburg; Normandy and Khe Sanh.
Time and again these men and women struggled and sacrificed and worked till their hands were raw so that we might live a better life. They saw America as bigger than the sum of our individual ambitions; greater than all the differences of birth or wealth or faction.
This is the journey we continue today. We remain the most prosperous, powerful nation on Earth. Our workers are no less productive than when this crisis began. Our minds are no less inventive, our goods and services no less needed than they were last week or last month or last year. Our capacity remains undiminished. But our time of standing pat, of protecting narrow interests and putting off unpleasant decisions — that time has surely passed. Starting today, we must pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and begin again the work of remaking America.
For everywhere we look, there is work to be done. The state of the economy calls for action, bold and swift, and we will act — not only to create new jobs, but to lay a new foundation for growth. We will build the roads and bridges, the electric grids and digital lines that feed our commerce and bind us together. We will restore science to its rightful place, and wield technology's wonders to raise health care's quality and lower its cost. We will harness the sun and the winds and the soil to fuel our cars and run our factories. And we will transform our schools and colleges and universities to meet the demands of a new age. All this we can do. All this we will do.
Now, there are some who question the scale of our ambitions — who suggest that our system cannot tolerate too many big plans. Their memories are short. For they have forgotten what this country has already done; what free men and women can achieve when imagination is joined to common purpose, and necessity to courage.
What the cynics fail to understand is that the ground has shifted beneath them — that the stale political arguments that have consumed us for so long no longer apply. The question we ask today is not whether our government is too big or too small, but whether it works — whether it helps families find jobs at a decent wage, care they can afford, a retirement that is dignified. Where the answer is yes, we intend to move forward. Where the answer is no, programs will end. Those of us who manage the public's dollars will be held to account — to spend wisely, reform bad habits, and do our business in the light of day — because only then can we restore the vital trust between a people and their government.
Nor is the question before us whether the market is a force for good or ill. Its power to generate wealth and expand freedom is unmatched, but this crisis has reminded us that without a watchful eye, the market can spin out of control — and that a nation cannot prosper long when it favors only the prosperous. The success of our economy has always depended not just on the size of our gross domestic product, but on the reach of our prosperity; on our ability to extend opportunity to every willing heart — not out of charity, but because it is the surest route to our common good.
As for our common defense, we reject as false the choice between our safety and our ideals. Our founding fathers ... our found fathers, faced with perils we can scarcely imagine, drafted a charter to assure the rule of law and the rights of man, a charter expanded by the blood of generations. Those ideals still light the world, and we will not give them up for expedience's sake. And so to all the other peoples and governments who are watching today, from the grandest capitals to the small village where my father was born: know that America is a friend of each nation and every man, woman, and child who seeks a future of peace and dignity, and that we are ready to lead once more.
Recall that earlier generations faced down fascism and communism not just with missiles and tanks, but with sturdy alliances and enduring convictions. They understood that our power alone cannot protect us, nor does it entitle us to do as we please. Instead, they knew that our power grows through its prudent use; our security emanates from the justness of our cause, the force of our example, the tempering qualities of humility and restraint.
We are the keepers of this legacy. Guided by these principles once more, we can meet those new threats that demand even greater effort — even greater cooperation and understanding between nations. We will begin to responsibly leave Iraq to its people, and forge a hard-earned peace in Afghanistan. With old friends and former foes, we will work tirelessly to lessen the nuclear threat, and roll back the specter of a warming planet. We will not apologize for our way of life, nor will we waver in its defense, and for those who seek to advance their aims by inducing terror and slaughtering innocents, we say to you now that our spirit is stronger and cannot be broken; you cannot outlast us, and we will defeat you.
For we know that our patchwork heritage is a strength, not a weakness. We are a nation of Christians and Muslims, Jews and Hindus — and non-believers. We are shaped by every language and culture, drawn from every end of this Earth; and because we have tasted the bitter swill of civil war and segregation, and emerged from that dark chapter stronger and more united, we cannot help but believe that the old hatreds shall someday pass; that the lines of tribe shall soon dissolve; that as the world grows smaller, our common humanity shall reveal itself; and that America must play its role in ushering in a new era of peace.
To the Muslim world, we seek a new way forward, based on mutual interest and mutual respect. To those leaders around the globe who seek to sow conflict, or blame their society's ills on the West — know that your people will judge you on what you can build, not what you destroy. To those who cling to power through corruption and deceit and the silencing of dissent, know that you are on the wrong side of history; but that we will extend a hand if you are willing to unclench your fist.
To the people of poor nations, we pledge to work alongside you to make your farms flourish and let clean waters flow; to nourish starved bodies and feed hungry minds. And to those nations like ours that enjoy relative plenty, we say we can no longer afford indifference to the suffering outside our borders; nor can we consume the world's resources without regard to effect. For the world has changed, and we must change with it.
As we consider the road that unfolds before us, we remember with humble gratitude those brave Americans who, at this very hour, patrol far-off deserts and distant mountains. They have something to tell us, just as the fallen heroes who lie in Arlington whisper through the ages. We honor them not only because they are guardians of our liberty, but because they embody the spirit of service; a willingness to find meaning in something greater than themselves. And yet, at this moment — a moment that will define a generation — it is precisely this spirit that must inhabit us all.
For as much as government can do and must do, it is ultimately the faith and determination of the American people upon which this nation relies. It is the kindness to take in a stranger when the levees break, the selflessness of workers who would rather cut their hours than see a friend lose their job which sees us through our darkest hours. It is the firefighter's courage to storm a stairway filled with smoke, but also a parent's willingness to nurture a child, that finally decides our fate.
Our challenges may be new. The instruments with which we meet them may be new. But those values upon which our success depends — hard work and honesty, courage and fair play, tolerance and curiosity, loyalty and patriotism — these things are old. These things are true. They have been the quiet force of progress throughout our history. What is demanded then is a return to these truths. What is required of us now is a new era of responsibility — a recognition, on the part of every American, that we have duties to ourselves, our nation, and the world, duties that we do not grudgingly accept but rather seize gladly, firm in the knowledge that there is nothing so satisfying to the spirit, so defining of our character, than giving our all to a difficult task.
This is the price and the promise of citizenship.
This is the source of our confidence — the knowledge that God calls on us to shape an uncertain destiny.
This is the meaning of our liberty and our creed — why men and women and children of every race and every faith can join in celebration across this magnificent Mall, and why a man whose father less than sixty years ago might not have been served at a local restaurant can now stand before you to take a most sacred oath.
So let us mark this day with remembrance, of who we are and how far we have traveled. In the year of America's birth, in the coldest of months, a small band of patriots huddled by dying campfires on the shores of an icy river. The capital was abandoned. The enemy was advancing. The snow was stained with blood. At a moment when the outcome of our revolution was most in doubt, the father of our nation ordered these words be read to the people:
"Let it be told to the future world ... that in the depth of winter, when nothing but hope and virtue could survive...that the city and the country, alarmed at one common danger, came forth to meet (it)."
America, in the face of our common dangers, in this winter of our hardship, let us remember these timeless words. With hope and virtue, let us brave once more the icy currents, and endure what storms may come. Let it be said by our children's children that when we were tested we refused to let this journey end, that we did not turn back nor did we falter; and with eyes fixed on the horizon and God's grace upon us, we carried forth that great gift of freedom and delivered it safely to future generations.
Thank you. God bless you. And God bless the United States of America.

Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Kanye West is an Arrogant A-hole

Kanye came out of left field in the hip hop game. I credit him with being very talented. He's an excellent producer. He raps about positive stuff. He may even give back to the community. I really don't know. He takes chances in his music. I like that. Kanye was incredible when he first came out. I even bought his first album which is a rare thing for me.

All his talent now is overshadowed by his indeterminable arrogance. I believe in self confidence and self worth, but Kanye takes it to the max. Who does he think he is? I hate to have seen him as a child. I admire his late mother's patience. Me? I don't have patience for people like Kanye. He must think the world owes him something.

Is this arrogance the result of not having a father growing up? I hope not. However, I think he was extremely spoiled growing up. He got everything his heart desired. Maybe that's why he thinks the world should give him all he wants. I know the music business is a hard business. No business is easy. You have to work really hard and have a great team around you for you to be successful in this industry. He works hard. I get that. But the arrogance I don't get.

Kanye is nominated for 5 grammy awards. He receives 4 of them. Apparently the industry likes his music and so does his fans. Why does Kanye have a hissy fit and/or tantrum? He thinks he should get all 5 awards. Kanye come on. Get over it. Be happy with the 4 you have gotten. Not many artists get 4 grammies; much less a rap artist.

Kanye is nominated for world music award. Hey Kanye, not only does the US listen to your music, so does the whole world. However, he does not get the award. Some foreign artist gets it. Kanye storms on stage while the winner is giving his/her acceptance speech and snatches the microphone. He tells the world that he doesn't disrespect the winner but he himself should have won the award. He went and shown the world his ass. How dare he interrupt someone elses speech. He's rude .

Kanye is given a whole room to perform at the MTV Video music awards. He performed 2 to 3 songs for the night, on air. After the show is over he complains about not getting to perform on the main stage. He complains how Timbaland and Justin performed in their own room and then gets to perform on main stage. He has to notice that Timbaland produces and is on a lot of records. It was Nelly Furtado's piece that they came to main stage for. And all 3 are in songs together. Is that jealousy, I detect? So when he bitches, he says he'll never work with MTV again. Okay just make an ass of yourself, Kanye. MTV pretty much controls popular sway with fans. Who's going to show his videos? BET? BET don't have the same clout MTV does. Plus BET doesn't play many videos. He's ignorant that he can command presence without the help of MTV.

He claims he's going to go down in history as the greatest MC ever to hold a mic. Really? Says who? All rappers have bravao saying they are the best MC ever, but in reality they know they are not. It's all an act. Kanye isn't acting. I still say he's very talented. He's different from other rappers so he does stand apart. He has critical acclaim and grammies to prove he's a great artist. But the best ever? Come on? As I say, you may be great right now but there will always be someone greater. Be realistic Kanye. Stop living in a fantasy world.

During the release of his current album he states that he hates rap and when he does rap he has to get into a grimy place mentally. He came out as a rap artist. Come on. Now he wants to villafy what he made money off of. That is a slap in the face to his fans and to his industry people. I know he wanted to get into this rap thing so badly that he worked hard to get into it. Why slap the hand that feeds you? We know the state of rap music is in the gutter. Help bring back rap instead. He wants to try other genres out there. Go ahead. No one is stopping him. Just don't insult but remember what got him in the doors to success in the music business.

The last point, I promise, is his new comment he made recently. He doesn't want to be famous anymore. He wants to be low key like Bjork commanding a dedicated small fan base. He wants this because he wants to pose nude. Who wants to see him nude? Kanye, how are you going to be greatest MC ever without being famous? Who is he without fame? Where's his money coming from? Who spends their money on albums? Who purchases his merchandise? The fans. They make you and they can break you. How is he going to go down in history as the greatest MC ever? I understand the paparazzi all in his business. They shouldn't be in people's business like that anyway. However, that's a another story for another blog. Once you want to be in the public eye, you have to sacrafice so privacy. It's part of the job. Embrace it. Try to keep your private life private. Many celebrities who are more popular than Kanye manages to keep their lives private. He should seek their advice. Stop talking bullshit.

Kanye is very interesting. He may do all of this for attention or publicity. I really hope he does. I wonder how long before his fans stop buying his music, tickets to his concerts or purchase his merchandise because of his arrogance. I persoonally would not put up with him. I know his new album is really good. I am not going to purchase it because I don't want to support an arrogant ass. I won't even download it for free. That's my choice. I just hope he adjusts his attitude before he grows old and alone. No decent women will stand for his attitude. He will just have to deal with the gold-diggers. They will put up with anything as long as the money is flowing. I wish him the best in his career.