Thursday, January 20, 2011

Strawberry Letter 23 - Subject: am i not enough

Goodmorning Steve & Shirley! Im a 23yr old single mom. I have an amazing 8yr old son. I work full time. I have my own place. I drive my own car, pay my own bills, yet I feel incomplete. Ive been dating this guy for 1 1/2years off and on. Off and on because he claims hes afraid of me because he thinks I have a lot of game and I wouldnt have his back. Now hes 40yrs old so I KNOW he has game. Steve, Im 5foot3inc. 146lbs, chocolate beautiful skin (long story short Im Gorgeous) and I keeps it real while still being a lady of course, WHY WOULDNT HE WANT ME? I love this man more than I can put into words and I express my feelings all the time. Steve and Shirley Im a good woman. I dont know the first thing about sports but I would watch the games with him and ask questions 2better understand it, and I would even root for his team. I would go 2his place and cook and clean give him back rubs after a long days work. What could I be doing wrong.

My Response:

Breaking this down:
"I have my own place. I drive my own car, pay my own bills, yet I feel incomplete"
Get some self esteem miss. Only you can make yourself complete. No one else can. You must love yourself before anyone else can.

"he claims hes afraid of me because he thinks I have a lot of game and I wouldnt have his back"
Bullshit. Just a game he's playing. Wake up? You are 23 & he's 40 yrs old, he knows how to run game on you very well. You are inexperienced. He's been thru many women like you for over 20 years already. He knows how to get what he wants easily.

" (long story short Im Gorgeous) and I keeps it real while still being a lady of course, WHY WOULDNT HE WANT ME? "
Seriously? There are a lot of beautiful women out there. You are no different. Have you looked around you? Don't be too conceited now. Gorgeous women are dime a dozen. He probably has multiple other "you on the side".  What have you done that makes you stand out & makes him believe he can't live without you?  Have you set ground rules? Have you forgiven & tolerated all of his indiscretions? Did you ever set ground rules on how you wanted to be treated? If you answered no to all 3 then why would he want you? You just made yourself "easy". He knows he can get away with murder & you'd still cater to him. He knows you have no respect or love for yourself, so why should he?

"What could I be doing wrong. "

Come on... Have some respect for yourself. Drop him because he's not good for you. He's just using you. It seems like you know this too, but just don't want to admit it. He's getting into your panties without having to work for it. Stop letting this man use you.

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