Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Strawberry Letter 23 - Subject: Not Enough Time

Dear Steve&Shirley I am a 29yr old female that is very independent I have two jobs & go to school full time with no kids. But thats not the problem the problem is that I have a boyfriend that I have been dating for 9 months and he says that we dont spend enough time together. At first when I wanted to spend time with him he was to busy working on his projects & would tell me to fall back so he could finish & we would have time when he was done. So i got the two jobs & school to occupy my time so that I wouldnt bother him. Now that my plate is a little full its a problem that we dont have that spending time together, so he want me to quit one of my jobs so the time would be there. The main thing that is bothering me now is that he think that I dont want to sacrifies things for him so he always will make the statement if you cant do this for me then "I will find someone else that dont have to much on their plate to focus just on me." I do love him but I am confused because we spend time when i am off but thats not good enough for him. What can I do to show him that I want just as much time with him as he does with out stopping the things that I am doing? Signed Busy Female

My response:

Never sacrafice your income & your education for any man. If he is a great guy, he'd support your desire to better yourself. You come first before any man. You can't take care of a man unless you can take care of yourself.

You can always find time to spend with him. I'm guessing the time you can give him he doesn't want. That is his problem, not yours. It may be conflicting with another girl. If he's giving you an ultimatum on time, tell him to back off. If he don't like it, tell him to hit the road.

No man will give you that type of ultimatum if he loved you. He just want you to fall in line so he can have his cake. Send him packing.  

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