I was listening to the song "Irreplaceable" by Beyonce. I can say when I 1st heard the song, I didn't like it. The next time I heard it, I paid attention to the lyrics. Of course, now I love the song. It's pretty much about a guy acting up & she gives him the boot, a typical Beyonce song. However, this song addresses the fact that guys are so vain they think that their girls can't get anyone better.
Why do guys have such balls to think he's a "Gem"? Why do girls allow such stupidity from guys? Men are naturally cocky. I don't know if it's purely testosterone or from their environment. Once they get a girl, they act as if she's a drug. Then when the initial high wears off, they start to act up. The girls in this situation assume they can't find anyone else, so they forgive their guy when he begs & pleads forgiveness. At that point, the girl becomes the enabler. If a woman were in that situation, she would not tolerate her guy acting up. She will act accordingly to the situation. She will not enable her guy. She's not a doormat. He has to realize that there is a consequence to his actions. If he's forgiven all the time, the worst he will act.
If the girl was in the situation the guy was, her guy will not tolerate or forgive her and he will drop the girl like a bad habit. There shouldn't be a double standard. What's good for the gander is good for the goose. Everyone is replaceable. You may still have feelings, but you can move on.
Men….. Relationships are hard work. They do not stay passionate. You have to contribute to keeping the passion going. Don't be so vain & think you are so much better than your partner. If your partner is not contributing to keeping the passion alive, leave. Do not act up. You are hurting both you & her. There will always be another woman.
Women….. Advice is the same as the men, but you must protect yourself. Work on your esteem. Don't let guys rob you of yourself. Feel good about yourself & respect yourself. If you don't, your guy never will.
People, life is too short to tolerate bullshit. Grow up, have fun, and live your life to the fullest.